How to spice up sex with your spouse

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1. Give them their “favourite” move

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Most married people know what their spouse’s favourite item is, sex wise. However, if we don’t enjoy offering them these pleasures as much, we tend to avoid these moves and settle for moves that both like equally. To really heat things up, surprise your spouse with the one move that they like the most every once in a while. They might be thankful enough to reciprocate the favour or at least they would begin to look forward to sex a lot more than before.

The Indian sex manual Kama sutra has about 69 unique positions that it has to offer to couples who are excited for sex. The doggy style sex position is one of the most exciting positions for both the girl and the boy to get orgasmThe objective of doggy style is to make your partner conceive and reach orgasm as soon as possible.

How to go about it 

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This is one of the most comfortable positions for a boy and the best position for a girl to conceive. You need to stand on your hands and legs like a dog. Then slowly move your hands from the floor and hold your partner backwards to gain balance. Ask your partner to hold you by the buttocks from behind and then thrust into you from behind. Ask him to move you to and from by your hips and insert his penis deep into you. The in and out thrusting by your partner will ensure that the penis deeply penetrates in your vagina and you both reach orgasm as soon as possible.

How to attain maximum satisfaction 

attain maximum satisfaction This position is one of the most common positions performed by couples to achieve orgasm. Both of you will have maximum satisfaction if the penis deeply penetrates in your vagina. Put some gel or some cream in your vagina so that it becomes slippery and slimy for the penis to heave in smoothly without being injured in any way. Your partner will attain maximum satisfaction if he can hold you by the breasts and also fondle then in the process of thrusting within you. Deep and slow thrusting will ensure maximum satisfaction. Also ensure that your partner’s penis is fully erect and firm while entering into you. If you want to get pregnant then ensure that while ejaculation your partner’s penis stays deep within your vagina.

Precautions 

Wear-condomsThis position is the best way for both you and your partner can conceive as soon as possible. Since the penis is very near the cervix in a down ward position, it is very easy as well as comfortable for your partner to ejaculate inside you. Wear condoms if you do not want to end up being pregnant. Also ask your partner to hold to firmly by the buttocks while thrusting into you as you may lose control and fall. Do not try this act on a carpet as you may slip and fall.

Make sure that both of you are well experienced and fit to have sex in this position. This is a great position provided that both of you are slim and trim. This is a great position for both amateurs and experienced lovers.

Myths like the “seven year itch” really weigh down on a married couple as regular life leaves them with fewer opportunities to enjoy their sex life. The pressure of managing a shared home, work, bills, kids, social commitments, etc. often makes couples feel like their sex life isn’t as exciting as it was before they tied the knot. However, having great sex with a spouse isn’t rocket science and you can use the following ways to spice things up within your marriage.

2. Play out fantasies

Play out fantasiesEven after decades of being together, married couples might keep a few fantasies hidden away from their spouses. If things have become a bit dull in the boudoir, you can share these secret fantasies and rekindle the fire between the sheets.

3. Dirty talk

Dirty talkDirty talk, when in person or on the phone or even in texts and emails, can be unbelievably arousing for married people as a majority of their conversations are, well, non-sexual. The thrill of saying something dirty and then having to look your spouse square in the eye is a libido booster for both. Besides, knowing that your spouse still has such thoughts about you has got be insanely flattering too.

4 .Use erotica

.Use eroticaA lot of women may not check out porn all too regularly, but they certainly aren’t immune to the visual stimulation it presents. Make a date with your spouse and watch erotica in bed together. Not only will it be a different experience than you are used to, it will also help you brush up on your bedroom skills without having to attend a tantric sex class with 30 strangers!

5. Plan dates

Plan datesThe single biggest reason why the sex during courtship feels so wonderful is because both partners put their best feet forward when coming to dates. The romance factor is matched by the glamour factor of being in your best dress and the sparse nature of such dates adds to the sexual tension. To recapture the same thrill, you can plan dates every once in a while where you each buy new clothes, go to the poshest restaurant you can afford, hire a taxi and enjoy a night on the town and come home only to spend the rest of the night in bed together.

6. Be spontaneous

enticing your spouse into quickiesThe lack of spontaneity is the single biggest dampener on the sex lives of married people. To keep the passion alive, try enticing your spouse into quickies at restaurant coatrooms, at the office, even restrooms at the movies and anywhere other than the safe environment of your home that both of you have become accustomed to.

Tips to make your next lovemaking session extra special and piping hot

sex-poses-described-in-KamaSutraMen can also pick up a few tips on how they can change the pace of their intimate life through oral sex. When overdone even the good old oral may become boring and monotonous. To avoid boredom you should try new techniques and fix an appointment with your partner for giving them the best oral of their life. In the following, some incredible tips have been discussed to guide the amorous men and women in this matter.

The rule of thumb for giving your girl the best oral till date is to make her feel relaxed and comfortable. Women often take unnecessary pressure about reaching the climax. You have to make her believe that you are in no hurry and that she can take her time. When a woman is completely relaxed, she can enjoy the sensations of sexual pleasure more. The next important thing is the position. There are great many oral sex poses described in KamaSutra and other erotic books but the simplest and most convenient is the missionary going down pose. Ask her to lay on her back and place a soft pillow under her butt to raise her pelvis. Tell her to bend her knees and set them wide apart so that you get better scope to explore her. Tease her vulva and clitoris with your tongue first. It is a great idea to start with adoring her thighs and sucking the skin there before moving upwards to her vagina. When you hear her moaning softly, enter her vagina with your tongue and start exploration. If you have plans of making her climax only through oral then use a finger vibrator to massage her clit while you build up the in and out rhythm working on her vagina. It might take time to reach that crescendo but it is surely worth it.  

Men like their women to be skilled at bed. A confident woman who can make them cum through oral is someone invaluable. So, if you really like a guy and want him to turn into a keeper then learn how to give great orals. Orals are also invaluable tool for married women who desire to spice up their sex lives. Men like their women to hold their manhood in a firm yet gentle grip. So hold the penis with your hand firmly and cajole the testicles. There are nerve endings in the skin of testicles as well so don’t neglect them altogether. Tease your man by sliding the tip of your tongue from the top of the penis till the base. Circle the penis head with your tongue as well before taking him into your mouth. Start by gently sucking the penis head and then take more of his penis inside your mouth. You should also try tea bagging. This technique involves giving gentle kisses and sucking the shaft before you go downwards and take one testicle after another in your mouth. Be careful not to use teeth at this stage. Just dip the testicles in and out of your mouth like a tea bag. Massaging his perineum with your tongue is another good tactics to make him admire you more.

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