There are two pleasures unique to the vast majority of us: music and sex. Everyone has a shortlist of favourite bands or artists. And physical intimacy is also one of the most enjoyable sensations of all. So, what better way to enhance your experience of both activities than combining them?
Many of us will be familiar with ‘Sexual Healing,’ the classic soul song performed by Marvin Gaye. This is a wonderful example of the way a deeply soulful melody and poignant lyrics can combine to transcend mere listening and appeal to something deep within. In fact, soul music is generally perceived to be extremely conducive to romantic behaviour. When it comes to sex and relationships, it might seem a cliché to invite a partner round for a candlelit meal as soft soul music plays, but the correct choice of refrain can provide a fabulous backdrop.
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If you want to make the most of your time together, it would be better to relax and make the most of the proceedings rather than leaping straight for frenetic dance music. Just as a club DJ will commence the proceedings with slower-BPM mixes, gradually heightening the speed until he brings the dancing congregation ever closer to a wild climax, when selecting the ideal mood music to give you a romantic evening together, you should think of starting in a low gear before working your way up to any crescendo. So, at the start of the night, the music should not be all-pervasive. It should be an unimposing sound in the background – anything from beautiful classical music to contemporary pop, like Prince or Beck.
You can also make subtle adjustments to your playlist, depending on what level you are at in your relationship. If you are still in the early stages of courtship, you shouldn’t think about introducing acts which reflect your personal tastes too overtly. Better to play more ubiquitous songs that will be familiar to anyone. Think of much more generic music. You certainly can’t go wrong with the classics, such as the Beatles or Beach Boys.
As your night wears on, the meal is over, and you are settling down for relaxing drinks on the couch, the playlist should be reflecting this progression in your activity. At this stage in proceedings, you might think about something more sensual, with many female vocalists providing a particularly poignant and suggestive backdrop. Think of playing anything by PJ Harvey, Tori Amos or Kate Bush to achieve the correct meld of striking harmonies and an evocative atmosphere.
Music which doesn’t actually contain singing, but consists of layers of sounds are also ideal for getting each other into the mood for love. There is a myriad choice of ambient dance music which is perfect for achieving this type of reaction. Check out everything from Brian Eno to Groove Armada to create a relaxed vibe, enabling you to focus on intimate conversation as you slowly start to get more physical.
When you get to the stage you are getting ready to move things to the bedroom, your choice of background music can become much more pointed. If you are truly familiar with one another, you can collaborate on the playlist beforehand. Again it’s all about matching the songs with the developing intimacy. Start off with slower-paced numbers that will be ideal for the preliminary stages of foreplay. But as things get more intense, this can be reflected in more aggressive songs. Always make sure that you have the remote control to hand if you need to fast-forward or repeat!
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