Around forty million couples in the United States have complains about their sex related problems in married life. According to their testimony, before their marriage they had a better sex life than after marriage. Couples have abhorrence towards sex after marriage. So does it mean they have lost all the interest in sex? They do not like getting intimate and all the desires have no effects on them. Although there could be many reasons for this problem yet many women referred pre-marriage sex as the main cause to this problem.
Varied reasons behind this particular predicament
The reason behind this problem as stated by a women is premarital sex which was like a tool for excitement and enjoying sexual pleasure. But after marriage, it becomes more of a bonding of two hearts and a relationship which is not merely based on physical desires alone.
One woman said that sex before marriage ruined the pleasure of affectionate intimacy with her husband. It not only made her lose interest in having sex but also created a distance between the couple
The man needs to have sex in order to fulfill his physical requirements. The emotional bonds are not much important to him. After being married, the one sided pleasure seeking is disrupted as sex after marriage is not similar to premarital one.
How to solve this problem
The best way to fix this problem is discussion and counseling, if you and your wife/ husband are facing it. Try to communicate with each other in a friendly manner and try to find out the causes behind the problem. Nowadays, busy lifestyle, stress and job pressure may force one to lack sexual feelings. In that case, you can also seek a psychiatrist. But if you find that your premarital life was better than your married one, then you should seek out the possibilities of losing the interest.
People lose interest and the affectionate manner of sex is almost gone. Sex turns us into nothing more than a machine seeking physical intimacy. One has to understand that sex after marriage is an important factor of married life, so give yourself some time to understand what your partner wants and how she/feels now about sex . Marriage changes our life in a different way, so the expectations may vary but the main thing is love, understanding and caring which can solve this issue in due time.