Women find men to be very complex creatures with complex desires. But basically men are quite simple in their desires and nature. After the dating phase is over and you have entered the holy matrimony, your sex life is bound to change. The first few months are the time when couples enjoy unrestrained and amorous intercourse. When the initial excitement of being an official couple gets over then sex often becomes a routine.
Men do not like routine sex as it does not thrill them. Women are nurturers by nature and after marriage, they become more involved with decorating the living space and doing chores. In their desire to build the nest, they sometimes forget to pay attention to their husband’s needs. This is where the discord starts from. Unmatched or unequal sexual desires can cause your partner to drift away from the relationship. If you don’t want to be alienated from your husband then try to understand what he wants for saving your marriage.
Some secrets of men that they cannot communicate
Sex is communication for men. Women want cuddling, spooning, kisses and conversations to feel secured and loved. Men need sex the same way as women crave communication. Sex is their way to feel connected and loved. Sex is a part of their routine though they don’t want to feel bored in bed. Men are more interested in breaking the old mould and try new things with their committed partners.
They want to invest time in making sex more interesting. If you are a wife who doesn’t always like indulging the sexual needs of your man then think how it would have made you depressed if your man did not communicate with you for days or cuddled you. The same way lack of sex or sexual desire on your part can make your man feel neglected and unloved.
Men need to know that their wife respect them and not just in front of them but also behind their back. This makes them feel secure and validated. For men being respected by their wife is a source of pride and happiness. If they know that you love and respect them then they would easily agree to walk the extra mile for you and pleasure you in bed. Mutual respect is the corner stone of a healthy relationship and it can help in improving your sexual relationship with your husband.
For men, sex is a way of reconnecting with his partner. Your man will be thinking of sex when he returns home from work. When he imagines romance it will also be sexual. Romance for you means nice environment, snuggling and sipping wine under the starry sky. For the husband good relationship is one where there is no dearth of steamy sex. Though they are believed to be the stronger gender and the provider, men feel stressed often and they also worry a lot about their role in the office and home. Sex is a stress buster for them and it helps them feel more relaxed. It diverts a man’s mind from the daily worries.
Men do not bother about the way your body looks after giving birth. If a man loves you then he will think that you are pretty no matter how you look. They want to have sex with you even if you have not been able to visit the parlor in a while. Men also want their women to show physical love to them as it makes them feel desired. Take initiative from time to time just for the sake of making him feel loved and desired.
Sex is important for men not just because of the orgasmic pleasure but also because it is a mode of communication for them. They connect with their partner through sex and need it to feel loved.
