Today, more people are resorting to casual, no-strings attached relationships that are more about just having sex and not about the bell and whistles that a normal romantic relationship comes with. However, like more relationships, these causal flings too have some rules breaking which can make things awkward for both you and your casual sex buddy. Here are the top 10 no-no’s that you need to remember when in a causal sex relationship.
1. Do not think of it as a relationship
In casual sex arrangements, you need to remember that it is just about the sex and all the other expectations that you would have from someone you date don’t apply here.
2. Do not end booty calls with “I’ll call you”
Even if you’re in the habit of ending all sex acts with the phrase “I’ll call you”, you need to remember to refrain from using it at the end of booty calls when in a causal sex relationship. A simple “I’ll see you around” or “Bye” would suffice.
3. Don’t discuss your casual sex life with mutual friends
If you’re hooking up causally with someone from your friend circle, the proper thing to do is to not discuss the details of your encounters with them. This would put you and the other person at the center of gossip and make things awkward for everyone involved whenever your “arrangement” ends.
4. Don’t get jealous
In a casual sex relationship, if you find your sex buddy flirting with someone else or hooking up with someone else while your arrangement is still on or even beginning to have romantic feelings for someone else, it’s not your place to get jealous about it.
5. Keep the talking and sharing to a minimum
The worst possible mistake that you can make in a causal sex relationship is to get pally with your sex buddy. This really pushes the arrangement into the direction of a relationship which is one grey area where even the most lighthearted hookups go to die!
6. No expectations for gifts
Gift giving and receiving is something that people do for their romantic partners, not casual sex buddies. Even if it is you’re your sex buddy’s birthday, gifts should not be exchanged.
7. Don’t feel obligated
Your sex buddy is not your friend and he/she definitely isn’t your girlfriend/boyfriend. This means that you should never feel obligated to always respond to booty calls positively. If you don’t want to, you don’t have to say yes.
8. Don’t take a “no” personally
A casual sex arrangement is not a relationship and if your sex buddy turns down a booty call for whatever reason, you should not take it personally. No matter how desperately you need a sex-only date, you have no right to get upset if your casual sex buddy cancels on you or simply says that he/she isn’t in the mood for it. Be graceful about it.