So a new relationship seems to be getting serious, and you feel that you’re ready to take it to the next step and do “it”. Being with someone for the first time is exciting and slightly nerve wracking and you can never be too sure of how it would go and how it would impact your view of your partner. However, there are a few basic manners that would help ease the nerves and ensure that things go well.
Talk about it
If you’re ready to have sex, you must be grown up enough to talk about it. The smartest way you can approach first time sex is to firstly ask if your partner is ready for it. Then politely discuss the details of when and where. If this is to be your first time ever, you should tell your partner about it so that they can adjust their expectations accordingly.
When it’s the first time for the both of you
When both you and your partner are having sex for the very first time ever, things can be awfully confusing and unnerving for the both of you. Not having firsthand knowledge of how things are supposed to be can lead to a lot of confusion. The best thing you can do to ensure that everything goes well is to educate yourselves as best as you can.
Precaution should be your top priority every time you have sex. It becomes even more important when you’re having sex for the very first time. Girls should be more proactive and use contraceptive pills themselves instead of leaving the use of precaution to a partner. If the deed is a little impromptu, you can bring your own condoms or ask your partner to bring them to avoid complications later on.
Even if you feel you already know all there is to know about sex before your first time, you can never know too much. Before your first time, read up about sex basics, STDs, pregnancy, precaution, common sex terms and what they mean and what could go wrong to keep things in perspective. If you have questions, ask someone with experience whom you trust for more intimate and practical knowledge.
Apart from your regular grooming and hygiene practices, cleaning up before your first sex experience can also boost your confidence. Whether you wax or shave your nether regions is entirely up to you though cleaning up the fuzz on your arms, legs and underarms is a must. A proper bath/shower, deodorizing, thoroughly cleaning your privates, nails, belly button, other crevices, teeth and tongue etc. is also a must.
Have realistic expectations
You may have heard about how fantastic your first time is supposed to be but remember that it is different for everyone. It would be awkward and having inflated expectations about it would certainly not help. Remember that you won’t be a sex god/goddess from your very first time. For your first time, you should focus more on what it feels like than what it should feel like.