Being single is something that we all men can relate to. And sadly, most of the time it’s our fault to be single. Of course, everyone has their own circumstances. For example, grieving a lost relationship that lasted for years, or trying to find someone whose company you can enjoy. Whatever the case may be, there are some things you can do to improve your chances of getting a girlfriend, or perhaps being okay with being single.
There’s a saying that goes like this: better alone than in bad company. We truly believe that this should be a rule since no relationship should be started because of loneliness. That’s why we’ve got a piece of advice for single men to help them deal with singleness, to whether catch themselves a girlfriend or improve themselves to be attractive enough to a girl.
First, Know When You Are Ready
Have you always been single? You’ve probably had a girlfriend or two before, right? Why did you guys break up? There’s something to learn from relationships that failed or others’ relationships. We consider it really important to learn and become wise with every experience, be it good or bad. Take your previous relationship as an example, and think about it. Not just think something in the lines of “she was completely at fault”, even if that may be the case.
Be pragmatic. What were the things you could have done better? What were the things you didn’t like about the relationship? Are you seeking one because you feel lonely, or are you ready for what it means in its complexity? Do you feel mature enough to embark on a new adventure, with someone completely new, even though things may not work in the end?
If you feel strong enough to understand that love is about enjoying someone else’s company while you are vulnerable and capable of hurting them, you are ready for a relationship.
Another thing to consider is that a relationship should be started once you feel good with yourself. Ideally, two persons should be together once both are in a state of peace, and ready to share themselves with one another without the attachment. Attachment and love are two different things that are usually confused, and loving without self-love usually leads to it.
With that said, let’s talk about how to get to meet new people and the things you should consider when doing it. There are other bits of advice you can follow over here.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
We can’t emphasize enough how important it is to be willing to do things you wouldn’t usually do. For example, if you are someone who doesn’t like partying, who likes quiet environments where you can chat with someone. That’s okay too. Even if don’t enjoy parties, you can still still got out of your comfort zone by doing things like trying to talk to people when you go to a quiet bar or approach people you don’t know.
This is useful if you are shy and reserved. You don’t have to stop being yourself to go out of your comfort zone, you just need the courage to try new things. A good way of thought is thinking that the worst thing that can happen when you try to approach someone is a moment of awkwardness and rejection, which you’ll probably forget after a few minutes if you aren’t someone who struggles too much to let things go. If you think about the benefits if you score a home run, this is nothing but a child play.
Be Respectful and Patient
If you approach a woman, and she utterly rejects your intentions, be as respectful as possible, smile, and be on your way. Put yourself on their shoes. Most women have to deal with lots of stupid situations, mostly because of us. Men wooing at them while they walk on the street, or lots of persistent men not taking a no as an answer. The best thing you can do to show your worth is being respectful and know how to take a no. If a woman is willing to accept your approaches, you’ll know it.
Learn to Listen, and Talk
This is something you can do quite well when you are a natural listener. If don’t mind listening to people, and talking about it, then leading the conversation towards things you like is much easier. A conversation is like playing a ball game where you receive and toss the ball. If you listen properly, you’ll know how to receive it, and if you are smart enough, you’ll know how to pass it.
When approaching a girl for the first time, you should be honest and direct about your intentions without being a weirdo. You can compliment them honestly, or invite them to some coffee, or try to get their number if you can. If they like you, they’ll say yes. If they don’t, then they won’t.
If You Feel You Aren’t Enough, Improve!
There was a time where I had this feeling I wasn’t enough for anyone. I had no money, nor a constant source of income, and neither felt too great about myself. I felt bad about it and didn’t want to burden anyone with my problems. This is something you should fix before trying to be with someone else.
That’s when I decided to try harder and improve myself. I indulged in self-improvement habits, like the ones mentioned over here http://smartbusinesstrends.com/9-habits-geared-towards-self-improvement/, and slowly I started to feel better about myself and noticed that I was at peace. Then, I wasn’t scared of meeting new people anymore. I was ready for it.
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