A healthy sex life is important in relationships because it helps the two people feel connected to each other. It’s alarming how many couples fail to recognize the role of intimacy. They feel it’s one of those things that must happen in a relationship. As a result, they simply rush through sex and get on with their day. But this shouldn’t be so. This article will show you tips for igniting passion in your relationship.
1. Change Your Perception of Sex
Each person’s attitude or perception about sex is shaped by their unique life experiences. For example, someone who grew up thinking that sex is a confirmation of their masculinity or a sign that they ‘’got’’ the girl may be ashamed to give in to their emotions. Instead of enjoying the passion and intimate connection with their partner, they strive for validation from their friends.
Since we subconsciously let our experiences affect our relationships, it’s important to redefine sex in your mind and state why it is important for you and your partner. Instead of worrying about achieving an orgasm or how your partner will perceive your performance, see sexual intimacy as a way to connect with your lover.
2. Build a Love Map
You and your partner should build an erotic ‘’love map’’, a guide to what turns you both on sensually and what turns you off. Learn more about your lover’s desires and body by asking specific questions. Ask your partner about their sexual needs that could make lovemaking more pleasurable for them. You can start by asking them what felt good about your last sexual experience, and what made them feel more relaxed. You can even ask them the point when they reached the climax and what happened in the minutes leading up to it.
Not only will this conversation make you feel closer and more connected to each other, but it will also make your partner know that you’re interested in seeing your relationship flourish. After learning about your partner, allow them to ask you about your own sexual needs and fantasies so they will have the chance to fulfill your pleasure needs. Avoid being judgmental of your partner when having this discussion so that they don’t put up a wall of defense.
3. Be Wild With Foreplay
One way to have more satisfying sexual experiences is by setting the stage for intimacy so your bodies and minds anticipate the intercourse. Your foreplay can include engaging in activities like cuddling, sensual massages, kissing, touching, or dirty talking. You can tease your partner with naughty words throughout the day. Whisper in their ear, send text messages, or slip a note into their purse, wallet, or pocket.
You can even use sex toys such as a finger vibrator to pleasure your partner or yourself while your partner watches or performs other sexual acts with you. Also, consider using flavored lubricants or having a bowl of apricots or dark chocolate truffles around to add some deliciousness to your foreplay. Even if you don’t want to go all the way to penetration, at the time, you and your partner will experience intense physiologic responses when engaging in foreplay.
4. Sex Up Your Bedroom
Even though we can enjoy sex in any part of the house, the bedroom is still a key area where love making takes place. That’s why creating a sexier and more sensual bedroom can positively impact your sex life. There are so many ways to make your bedroom feel sexier. You can get warm flannel bedding in winter and cool silky sheets for the hot summers. You may also want to get soft padded headboards, cushy comforters, and deep pile carpets. Throw pillows will also make a good addition to your bedroom. But try not to go overboard with them so they don’t ruin the moment when you and your partner have to remove them from the bed before getting busy.
Avoid clutter in your room or having big furniture in the way. This is especially important if your space isn’t wide. Consider using colors and light, such as blue and deep purple, in your bedroom. Also, make your room smell sexy by using naturally scented candles or fresh flowers. To stimulate the erotic energy in your bedroom, you may want to choose aromatic oils from natural sources such as lavender, sandalwood, and musk over synthetic perfumes. And to make it sound sexy, turn on some background music. Soft and sultry music has a way of stimulating erotic sensual emotions.
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